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My Coaching Style
When the Answers Aren't Clear
Over the years, I've learned a great deal from the people who have shared their journeys with me. While our circumstances may be very different, many of the feelings and experiences we navigate are remarkably similar.
I'd like to share an excerpt from my own personal notes, written during a time when I was struggling to find clarity.
“I feel lost, confused and restless. My mind feels scattered. I seek information then go into overload from too many opinions. When I'm unclear about what I really want, I feel disempowered, disconnected, scared and vulnerable. I don't know what to do first.”
Does any of this sound familiar?
I've come to understand that when we're overwhelmed by change or uncertainty, it's easy to look outside ourselves for answers. We seek advice and gather information, hoping to find clarity. Yet sometimes, the more we search outside ourselves, the less connected we feel to what we already know.
And that's often where our work begins.
How I Approach Coaching
My coaching style combines deep listening, intuitive awareness, thoughtful questions, and practical action.
I'm not a rah-rah cheerleader type of coach. I'm direct, compassionate, and genuinely interested in understanding what's happening beneath the surface.
I listen for the patterns that connect your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Together, we explore what may be keeping you stuck, what matters most to you, and what feels right as you consider your next steps.
I believe our emotions offer valuable information. Rather than viewing them as obstacles to overcome, we can begin to understand what they're telling us about our needs, beliefs, and experiences.
Sometimes that understanding brings an immediate shift in perspective. Other times, it unfolds gradually through reflection, new awareness, and small, intentional steps forward.
There's no need to force the process.
Moving Beyond Familiar Patterns
One of the concepts that has influenced my coaching comes from Human Needs Psychology and Strategic Intervention, developed through the work of Tony Robbins and psychologist Cloe Madanes.
It involves understanding the difference between what are sometimes called safe problems and quality problems.
Safe problems are familiar difficulties that can occupy our attention, even when they aren't addressing what matters most. We may find ourselves repeatedly overthinking, procrastinating, focusing on other people's behavior, or returning to patterns that no longer serve us.
Quality problems involve the meaningful challenges that come with growth. They may require us to make decisions, establish boundaries, accept uncertainty, or move toward something important without knowing exactly how everything will unfold.
It's not always easy to recognize the difference.
Sometimes what feels like being stuck is actually an invitation to look more closely at what we're avoiding, what we're protecting, and what we're ready to change.
My role isn't to tell you which direction to take. It's to help you recognize these patterns, reconnect with your own clarity, and make decisions that reflect who you are and what matters to you.
Why Is My Coaching So Effective?
I offer what works for me. When I've focused on outside influences and "safe" problems, it has distracted me from what was really going on inside and, bottom line, it just didn't work and neither did I. I kept feeling like I took a detour into somebody else's neighborhood and life. It was a bad movie.
The more I kept trying this approach and missing the mark, the more discouraged and exhausted I became. But once I learned how to know, love and trust myself, it was a total game changer.
Here's the point. When the inspiration comes from outside of you, it doesn't last. What truly moves you forward comes from within. But sometimes we need help getting to that place of inner guidance and self-knowing.
Now look, I am not a rah-rah cheerleader type of coach. My coaching style is direct and based upon my own personal journey. It has led me out of seemingly impossible odds. It continues to work for me, and I know it can help you, too. I am self-discovery, goal, action, and results-oriented and driven.
I'm here to help you find your way back home to yourself.
Welcome home.